If matches are made in heaven, why do we go through hell finding them?Part 3

Here I am again...continuing my detailed explanation of what goes into a arranged marriage. (I guess I don't need to warn readers this time)

So, after bio data, kundli, investigation and preparation comes the day of meeting..

Depending on where the meeting is taking place, arrangements are made. Meal is decide, seating is decided, what the prospective bride and groom are supposed to wear is critically reviewed in order to see it matches the bio data criteria. (Oh you look slimmer in blue, ah that yellow makes you look darker are the common comments)

Girls are never pampered more than this time. A compulsory trip to salon, heavy jewellery and flashy clothing, all has to be there.

Finally, the wait gets over. The boy and the girl gets to meet. Correction- the boy and the girl get to meet each other's family. 

The expected behaviour in this meeting is so well taught that it leaves the poor aspirant nervous. At this time, family members try to lighten up the mood by joking at aspirant's expense. (Bachpan me to munna kehta tha mummy main aishwarya se hi shaadi karunga). (My question here is...why??)

After a list of important and non-important questions, the answer of which are rehearsed and revised, the aspirants get to spend some time alone.

Many of the questions and answers are pre-set here too (remember we have a story coming from bio-data times) (for those who want to know about the heights of absurdity in some questions, read another post on "kya aapne kabhi alcohol taste kiya hai?")

So on the basis of this meeting, a groom and a bride are decided. (If you got to talk for more than two hours, or meet again consider yourself lucky)

Back in their respective homes, each word is analysed and weighed. (I really want to start an analysis service body for this too).

Anyhow, a decision has to be made, and more often than not, the decision is made by family the aspirant themselves (makes me feel that as Indian kids we have more freedom in choosing our careers than our partners)

Here comes the end of my tale- if yes, all are happy. But if its a no, restart the process.

Now that I am done rambling about this process, many would wonder why this post?

My dear brothers and sisters (and my prospective groom) "dikhawe pe mat jao, apni akal ladao". 

Seriously guys, I'd say we need to take it easy. What if she doesn't have same likes as you, or he isn't as fit as you wanted? How does it matter that what times she gets up or how late he sleeps? Most of it is gonna change anyway. Ask questions, which matter, which matter to your future.

If you aren't satisfied, ask for more time. Don't discount a person, or accept them because other do not or do like them.

Please choose your partner carefully. It's an event for others, but for you it's lifetime. (I am not considering divorces as an option)