Another old post. Someone bumped it up on my wall and it seemed to resonate with my mood this year. This is the answer to most commonly asked question every new year. No offence to anyone's resolution but this is what I feel.
Hoping whatever your resolutions may be - you are granted with strength and the means to fulfill the same. Wishing all my readers a wonderful and blessed New Year
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Yesterday i got in touch with a lot of my friends and family members to wish each other the arrival of the new year.. whole day yesterday, as i answered my phone, the opening statement was a very cheerful "happy new year"(i hope i get some more calls today...)and what followed more was an inquisitive question: Resolution kya liya?? My answer to most of them was "nahi ya..kuch nahi"
So eventually i decided to get into the league and see what can be my new year resolution...so i followed my friends footsteps to find out others resolution...made some calls...wished them new year and asked "Resolution kya liya??" the answers i got were like...From "smoking chod dunga...job dhoond ke rahoonga, is baar padhai mein jyada mann lagungi, saal ke end tak shaadi kar loonga" to "is saal to main naya bf dhoond hi lungi, yaar is saal main apne coaching wali us bandi ko propose kar hi dunga, is saal ke end tak main indepedent settle ho jaunga, etc etc etc..." (bohot lambi list hai, apka kuch special ho to please bata dena)...
After listening to various resolutions...i figured out resolution lene ke funde...
1. Resolution are all about our benefits.(me main mera...mera kya hoga)
2. Resolutions are anything random which we guess no one will remember...(smoking chod dunga and the league)
3. Resolutions are all those statements which sound impossible to others...(saale bada aaye... smoking chod ke to dikha...paanch saal se keh raha hai..)
4. Resolutions dont mean anything...not to us not to others...its just a way to find out how bad is your hangover...(ans: umm...hmmm..sochta hun yaar=very bad, haan yaar hai ek do...dekhte hai= little bad, yaar maine to soch liya hai iss baar main boss ko dikha dunga ki mujhe better job mil sakti hai=sober but frustrated that he couldn't drink last night...)
All these resolutions and their interpretations got me thinking the importance of new year resolution...i just wonder that can our new year resolutions should be about others...a little more simpler...a little do-able...something like...i'd try touch more hearts...sit for some more time with mum and tell her how much i love her...give a little more surprises to my partner/ spouse, shell out a little more than my share of money if my friend is going through hard time...i will stop judging people by their money, car, clothes, house, etc....i will try give out some time/money to some charity, organization needy and make them feel they have equal right to be happy...something like...i will work more on the issues close to me...follow what my heart says.. not what someone like dad's friend's brother's son would say...make one person smile a day...try not to break my parents/sibling/ friends/ spouse/ girl/boy friend's heart by trying to be a rebel...
I will try just be myself...like my mum taught me to...and if this is acceptable...these are my new year resolution...
P.S. (no offence to smoking chod dunga and other resolutions...they are just references)
Happy New Year to All
This was such a nice counter point of view on New Year resolutions. What you say makes so much sense. Any resolution which is taken which will enable making other lives a little more satisfying, a little more happier is the best resolution. Lovely post :)
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean, Sugandha. But that doesn't stop me from making plans about what to focus on in the New Year! Wishing you a wonderful 2014!
ReplyDeleteWhat to focus on is so much nicer word.
DeleteBut then I always feel making resolutions always helps a person understand what needs to be done in the coming time and then it helps one stay focussed but that's just my point of view. Its not like I have not broken a resolution in my life :P :)
ReplyDeleteI agree...but my point is why new years?
DeleteU know instead of resolution, I like dthe term Vidya used "what would you like to focus on".... more comprehensive tahn resolutions rt?
ReplyDeleteExactly :) Vidya is a genius.
DeleteSugandha I can completely understand from where you are coming... This resolution thing does seem a little overhyped..But at the same time sitting down with yourself and asking yourself a few questions for which you will look for answers in teh coming year is not a bad start of the new year..if nothing at least it makes us realize what is important for us..no matter how trivial
ReplyDeletehmmm....I agree to an extent but not completely
DeleteI know what you mean. I also believe that if one wants to quit something bad or start some something new, whenever the realization dawns, one must go ahead with that and one should not wait for a specific day or date for that! Having said that, I still like to make new year resolutions. :)
ReplyDeleteLol...We are all the same Shilpa :)
DeleteThis was a very straight from the heart kind. And of course we all can relate to it but honestly what you have resolved is very tough. Being yourself is the hardest in this world darling :-) A very very very happy new year !
ReplyDeleteRicha
Yes it is....and it remains on my resolution list forever.
DeleteLoved you honesty and your list of resolutions. I had to giggle a bit about the hangover! LOL Happy New Year!!
ReplyDeleteA very good set of resolutions. I've stopped making them. Instead I set intentions (like my word joy) and then watch it unfold during the year - go with the flow. Wish you a wonderful 2014.
ReplyDeleteGreat Suzy. Good luck with finding Joy.
DeleteAmen to that thought Sugandha :)
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Deletehehe! Sugandha! We make resolutions to cajole the heart and the mind..convenience..Bingo! Strive to be the self is the biggest achievement one can do in a year. Cheerz to that
ReplyDeletehttp://vishalbheeroo.wordpress.com/2014/01/01/targets-to-make-2014-memorable-jolly-happy
Thanks Vishal...
DeleteI sorta agree on your take on resolutions. So this year I've made a wishlist. Much more fun :)
ReplyDeleteGood luck with that :)
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